By. Rahma Larissa
A few days ago, a friend of mine asked me to do a favor. She asked me to write kind of article themed friendship. One topic straightly comes to mind at that time is…. friendship between man and woman. Umm.. I think this would be an interesting topic, and i have my own opinion about this, though. So, here we go.
Nowadays, men and women are interacting very actively. They have common hobbies and for that, it can be stay in platonic relationship, like brother-sister. Huh? Do you really think that kind of friendship is exist? Okay, first, let’s try to look into what friendship does mean.
Friendship is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people
For most of men, friendship with women is more flexible, they can express their own feelings not like with a man. Because friendship between men is based on acts. Men hate being filed under indecisive. Men would rather do something then talk about it. That’s why we rarely see a man speaking to his friend for hours, about upcoming trip, for example.
Whereas, the friendship between women mostly based on trust. It is an open secret that women like to pouring their hearts out to each other, they enjoy giving advice and debate a variety of subjects at length. Friendship with men, women like to have pretended brothers, because with a male friend she can feel safe.
And for that good reason, maybe they (men or women) can talk with their friends about things which should not be touched upon when talking with their spouses or partners with no worries. Yeah, because usually human beings enjoy their time with the opposite sex, right?
But why cant a man and a woman be just friends? And is it really possible that this friendship might end into falling in love with each other? Well the basics of friendship are actually interests and confidence, not gender. However, friendship still..cant be truly made between men and women. Why? As we know, God did create in pairs, male and female.
Although, some of them may say; I think it’s possible, our friendship is a beautiful thing and we support each other through lifes ups and downs. We never developed romantic feelings, it will just ruin the friendship. True, if friendship between opposite sex is a beautiful thing, but the fear of developing romantic feeling is rather like true happens. You can say no, i dont have any feeling more than just a friend, then you are lying. I am sure, at least one of the friends have that feeling, but she/he rather shut her/his mouth because of the reason; romantic feeling will just ruined the friendship. The truly reason that they can never show up is; afraid of the other’s respond. In other mean, they dont wanna get hurt themselves by knowing the person they have falling in is actually doesnt have the same feeling as they do. And they dont wanna separate away from that person, even he/she doesnt have feeling more than just a friend. It’s okay as long as i can close to him/her.That’s pity.
Love is closely related to friendship in that it involves strong interpersonal ties between two or more people
Or I say, a man and a woman can‘t be friends, unless he‘s gay or she‘s lesbian. Nyahahaha.
But who cares anyway?? yeah, i dont care, and maybe you dont care either. Well, this post is just for sharing my opinion. Even it’s not making a conclusion, yes you can, or no you cant just friends with your opposite sex friend, I only share my thought about that kind of friendship.
I found an interesting opinion about this issue. One woman suggests how can a man and a woman be just friends: “you should go sleep in one bed (only sleep, no sex). If you will sleep soundly, without any distractions – yes, you can be friends, but if not…” Hahaha, true.
So, i still in my opinion, truly friendship between men and women is nonsense. How about yours?
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. (Qur’an 30:21)
Glory to Allah, Who created in pairs all things that the earth produces, as well as their own (human) kind and (other) things of which they have no knowledge. (Qur’an 36:36)
source: wikipedia, alquran-english, pravda, jurgita